Definition of First Impression

To a greater or lesser extent, we all care about the impression we make on others. This concern is especially relevant at certain times, such as a first love affair or a interview of work.

What should we take into account so that others see us better?

The first aspect that catches the attention of an interlocutor who sees us for the first time is the personal image. This includes a series of external elements: the way of dressing, the appearance of the face, the smile, the corporal hygiene or the haircut. All this transmits a message to the interlocutor, who consciously or unconsciously judges us. For the impression we make to be the most suitable possible, it is convenient to adapt the clothing and external appearance to the type of meeting.

In the case of women, an important aspect is the makeup used. On the other hand, there are some details that should be taken into account: the type of footwear, call the other by her name, arriving on time for the appointment or adopting the same body position as the other person.

Our body communicates ideas in many ways

Body posture may indicate firmness or unsafety. If we move our hands in an agitated way, it is very likely that others think we are nervous. The way of looking is an indicator of our personality and the mood. When we speak we should not only worry about the message, since the tone of voice and diction play a decisive role. Small gestures can betray us and for this reason we must avoid scratching ourselves, averting the gaze or shaking hands without firmness.

Apart from the factors external, personal attitude is a fundamental issue. To make a good impression it is convenient to convey sincerity, safety in oneself and empathy. And all this combined with a dose of optimism and Energy.

The first 90 seconds

Whether another person likes or dislikes in a first meeting depends on the initial moments. Studies of psychology which show that after the first 90 seconds we pass judgment on the other. During this short period of time the brain interprets everything it perceives and finally extracts a conclusion. We do this mental process unconsciously, but it has been shown that it is a strategy ancestral evolutionary that allowed primitive humans to distinguish friend from foe.

In short, the initial assessment of a person depends on four elements suitably combined: the image that you project with your physical appearance and non-verbal language, personal attitude, what you say and how He says.

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