What is Wendy's Syndrome?

Wendy's syndrome consists of the need to satisfy others, to feel the acceptance or non-rejection of the members to which it belongs.

Apparently it does not present any problem, but it has a connection with Peter Pan syndrome, which the psychologist Dan Kiley recorded in 1983 is applied to individuals who do not want to grow up.

It is very common for a Peter Pan to require or have a Wendy do what he does not want to solve, and tries to avoid.

Something that can affect people with Wendy's syndrome is chronic fatigue syndrome; (which consists of working too hard and without rest, causing a very high physical wear and tear).

An effect of Wendy's syndrome is the father or mother of the family, who practically does the child's homework, prepares the toilet for him, raises him, prepares the food, fixes his clothes, keeps his agenda, supplies him with all the supplies for his daily work, is constantly on the lookout for his duties of him. He is also the member who makes all the decisions so that others do not suffer from pressure, he develops an obsession for being attached to other people, you have the need to be essential, avoiding the inconvenience of others in any job.

They point out the following behaviors as characteristic of Wendy's syndrome and as a way to identify them:

1.- It feels indispensable.

2.- Consider love as a sacrifice.

3.- It can be very emotional or resigned.

4- Avoid or keep away all the things that bother others.

5.- He is emphatic in assuming the responsibilities of others and carrying out his tasks.

6.- Apologize for not doing things or for not knowing how to do them.

7.- Feel the need to take care of others.

8.- He ends up assuming the role of the father or made of his spouse.

Diagnosing these diseases is easy, as these characteristics exist in the patient.

It is essential that you recognize the problem and try to solve it, doing this it is easy to separate yourself from what does not correspond to you.

Saying no is the basis for solving this, saying no to others and to the patient himself.